No one is rushing you. You have more time than you think.
Tears are welcome here. So is laughter.
Which morning is this?
Both doors lead to the same idea: a send-off that's true to the person.
We're sorry. And you're alright — nothing has to happen this minute.
Put the kettle on.
That's the first task. It's a real one.
✓Kettle's onFirst thing done.
Good. While it boils — the whole picture.
The picture from above
The whole of it fits in three fields. Each one is a step — a click, same breath.
Faiths carry their own timing and form. The App follows yours — it never imposes one.
Step one — same breath
The law asks very little
Register the death — within 5 days (8 in Scotland), counted from when the medical examiner confirms you can. ›Tap — we'll do it together.Source: GOV.UK — Register a death
The green form — the certificate for burial or cremation goes to whoever carries out the funeral, before it happens.
Source: GOV.UK — After a death
Hold my hand
Register the death — together
One appointment, and we'll walk in ready. Nothing else has to happen today.
First, the only wait: the medical examiner's office confirms you can register. They contact you. The 5 days start then — not before.
Source: GOV.UK — Register a death
✓They've confirmedNot yet? Close this. We'll still be here.
Gather what you can find. None of these stop you — go anyway if some are missing.
✓Their birth certificate
✓Marriage or civil partnership certificate
✓NHS number or medical card
✓Proof of their address
Source: local registration services
The death is registered in the district where it happened. Can't get there? Any register office in England & Wales can take it "by declaration".
Source: local registration services
v0 mock — the real build searches, shows the number, books the slot. Appointments are typically 45 minutes.
Source: local registration services
The registrar will ask these. Answer here, on the sofa, and walk in with it done.
Source: GOV.UK / local registration services
You'll leave the register office holding three things:
The green form — it goes to whoever carries out the funeral, before the funeral.
Source: GOV.UK — After a death
Your Tell Us Once reference — one call or form tells DWP, HMRC, passports, DVLA and the council. Use it within 28 days. We'll do it together, next.
Source: GOV.UK / local registration services
Death certificates — order 3 or 4 while you're there, £11 each; many organisations insist on an original.
Source: GOV.UK / bereavement guides
Step two — same breath
Has a clock — not a panic
Tell Us Once — one call or form tells DWP, HMRC, passports, DVLA and the council. Use it within 28 days of getting your reference number.
Source: GOV.UK / local registration services
The mortuary holds them safely while you decide — usually free for the first days.
Source: hospital bereavement guidance
Step three — same breath
Entirely yours
Each line is a fork in the road. Take them in any order, or not today.
Funeral director — or none at all your choice›Unverified — being sourced before launch
The coffin — £275 or £1,500; nothing about the day changes your choice›Source: CMA standardised price lists
The dress code — black is not compulsory anywhere your choice
The music, the flowers, the words, the room your choice
The wake — the most important meal a family shares your choice
When the funeral happens — no legal deadline
Unverified — being sourced before launch
A fork in the road
Who carries the day?
Same breath. No rush. Every road here is a good road.
A fork in the road
The coffin
Same breath. Nothing about the day changes on any road here.
Now — put the phone on the table
Get the family round. Tap once. Talk about them: the stories, the arguments, the laugh.
Tap to listen
Nudge → Sarah's phone
When it goes quiet: ask everyone about Christmas.
Nudge → Tom's phone
Ask Tom to tell the allotment story. He won't volunteer it.
The App never speaks in the room. It listens, and it nudges pockets by message — the questions always arrive in a human voice.
Tomorrow morning it comes back with here's what I heard — the plan, built from your own words. The music three of you mentioned. The simple coffin, because she hated fuss. The stories, kept for whoever stands up to speak.
What's true of you?
Not what's done. What's true. Your family gets handed this on the day they need it most.
Ban blackColour is welcome. Costume is not compulsory.
The test of a good send-off:
Did the room laugh? Nobody has ever laughed at a default.
Every claim carries its source — or wears a flag until it does.